There is not one standard way to repair a damaged relationship. You’ll need to see how much damage was done before trying to fix the relationship, then you can decide how you want to approach it. Some common amends include:
Direct amends: This is where you meet in person with someone to correct your negative actions. The goal is to show that you’ve reflected on your mistakes and you show that you’re sorry, but your words must be supported by actions. Be specific in your apology and have a plan on how you will fix the relationship. The other person will be more appreciative, feel more understood, and be more receptive to a meaningful apology.
Indirect amends: This involves situations where damage cannot be undone. An example of this could be you were driving under the influence and hurt a loved one and they cut off ties with you. For these situations, you can make an indirect amendment to right your wrongs in the best way. You could give back to the community by volunteering or you could help others that are also in recovery.
Living amends: This kind of amendment is looked at from a broad perspective and is not aiming to repair ties with a specific person. Living amends is essentially acting on the positive things you’ve said like incorporating healthy habits into your lifestyle. This affirms your commitment to sobriety and helps you be a better person in the long run.