Some people hide their addiction well. However, given enough time, chronic drug use will begin to wreak havoc on relationships. It’s called collateral damage, and it affects family, friends, co-workers, and others that you encounter daily. The most important part of a rehabilitation program is to stop your destructive ways and build a new life. However, another significant portion of the process is mending the relationships of those you hurt. It’s not going to happen overnight, but they will learn to trust again over time.
The Circle of Support
Looking at your life, you will find that there are four distinct groups of people that surround you; they include: • Individuals that know what’s going on • People that have no clue about your addiction and enable you • Supportive individuals who encourage you to get help • Those who you’ve hurt and who you are estranged from The people who don’t know what is going on with you may be naive, or they may turn a blind eye to questionable behaviors. They may learn the fine art of rationalization. Any suspicious behaviors they see they equate to health, relationship, or work troubles. Enablers seem to be the biggest problem for those suffering from addiction. They try to show their support, but they often go above and beyond and end up making it easier for someone to use and abuse drugs.
They give money, time, space, and even will bail someone out of jail. It’s as if these people give you a license to continue your destructive behaviors. Supportive individuals are the ones that are concerned about your life, but they want you to get help. They know all about your drug issue, and they want to make it easy for you to get treatment. If an intervention is staged on your behalf, it would be this group of people that organize it. When it comes to the final group, they have had way too many hurts that are directly linked to your drug use. You may have stolen money from them, lied, embarrassed them, or done things that make them harbor feelings of resentment. You are probably estranged from this group because they want to stop further involvement with you. They could be the very reason why you seek treatment in the hopes of restoring the relationship.
You will walk some lonely paths due to your addiction. You may find yourself isolated and alone. When you get to this place, it’s a good indication that it’s time to get help. Many people feel that no one else cares about them, so why should they care either? Don’t be defeated. Checking into a rehab facility means there’s a chance you can beat this addiction and get help while fixing your troubled relationships. Here are some reasons how treatment can help:
- Loved ones often rally around for support when you show an effort to get clean.
- You can teach your loved one the things you learn from rehab about your addiction and what it does to you and your family.
- You can select a rehab facility that offers counseling services to help mend these broken fences.
- The longer you are clean and sober, the easier it is to rebuild trust.
Your entire life will improve once you get your mind free from those toxic substances. Most people find that their behaviors are what causes relationship problems, but when your mind is clear, you most likely won’t’ have those behavioral issues anymore. When your estranged loved ones see how well you are doing, then they will be more likely to forgive you for all your past transgressions. A 12-step program is an excellent tool because one of the steps is to make amends to others.
Dynamics come into play with all families. For some, the very reason why they begin using drugs or alcohol is that they don’t feel good enough or consider themselves the “black sheep” of the brood. Utilizing a family counseling program available at a rehab center can help you to begin again. The support of your family and friends is essential for long-term sobriety. If you are brokenhearted because you suffer from lost or damaged relationships, then you can start the healing process by checking into a rehab center. For more information about our treatment programs and how we can help with family counseling, please call one of our specialists at 833-762-3739.